How to turn these into a game
- 1.Read a pair out loud. Everyone picks a side — "both" is banned.
- 2.Thirty seconds each. Set a timer and make your case before it runs out.
- 3.For the spicy ones, flip a coin to assign your side — then defend it even if you disagree. That's where it gets fun.
Want this without the prep? YODM comes with 92 debate cards, a 30-second timer, and a die that picks your side — but the list below is free to start tonight.
Easy Warm-Ups
Start here — everyone has an instant gut answer.
- 01Coffee or tea?
- 02Beach vacation or mountain cabin?
- 03Texting or calling?
- 04Early bird or night owl?
- 05Sweet or savory?
- 06Movies at home or movies at the theater?
- 07Window seat or aisle seat?
- 08Dogs or cats?
- 09Books or podcasts?
- 10Cook at home or order in?
Would-Make-You-Think
The ones where the table actually splits.
- 01More money or more free time?
- 02Be a great leader or a great follower?
- 03Always be 10 minutes early or always 10 minutes late?
- 04A job you love that pays little or a job you hate that pays a fortune?
- 05Know the truth or stay happily in the dark?
- 06Be famous or be powerful?
- 07Restart your career or restart your relationships?
- 08Travel the world for a year or own your dream home?
- 09Be the smartest in the room or the most liked?
- 10Have a rewind button or a fast-forward button?
Pop Culture & Hot Takes
Low stakes, strong opinions — exactly how we like it.
- 01Marvel or DC?
- 02Star Wars or Star Trek?
- 03The book or the movie?
- 04Pineapple on pizza: yes or no?
- 05Android or iPhone?
- 06Throwback playlist or whatever's new?
- 07Binge the whole season or one episode a week?
- 08Live music or a quiet night in?
- 09Reboot or original?
- 10Subtitles or dubbed?
For Couples & Close Friends
Proceed with caution — these get personal fast.
- 01Big wedding or tiny ceremony?
- 02Split the bill or take turns paying?
- 03Plan every detail or wing the whole trip?
- 04Say the hard truth or keep the peace?
- 05Date night out or cozy night in?
- 06Live in the city or somewhere quiet?
- 07Share everything or keep some things private?
- 08Make up fast or take time to cool off?
- 09Surprise party or a heads-up?
- 10Be right or be kind?
Spicy (21+)
Save these for the right crowd. You've been warned.
- 01Read your partner's texts or have them read yours?
- 02A wild past you hide or a boring one you're proud of?
- 03Get caught lying or get caught snooping?
- 04One unforgettable night or a year of forgettable ones?
- 05Friends see your search history or your bank balance?
- 06Tell your crush how you feel or never find out if they felt the same?
- 07Date someone the group hates or keep the whole thing secret?
- 08Be the jealous type or be with the jealous type?
- 09Kiss and tell or never kiss at all?
- 10Get back with an ex or set them up with a friend?
This or that FAQ
What are good this or that questions for adults?+
The best this or that questions force a real choice between two things people actually care about — money vs. time, truth vs. comfort, right vs. kind. They're instant to understand, have no obviously correct answer, and reveal something about whoever's answering. Every question on this page is built that way.
How do you play the this or that game?+
Read a pair out loud and make everyone commit to one side — 'both' and 'it depends' are banned. For a real party game, give each person 30 seconds to defend their pick out loud. Add a rule that you have to argue your assigned side even if you secretly disagree, and a simple list turns into a debate. That's exactly how YODM works.
Are these this or that questions good for couples?+
Yes — the 'For Couples & Close Friends' and 'Spicy (21+)' sections are written for two people or a tight group. The warm-up and pop-culture sections work for any size table.
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